General Forum

I have a general question. If you received a trade message that was slightly messed up say cards missing how would you contact the other party. Would you message them this "There is multiple problems here and I really hope it was an honest mistake."  or something more like hi received your trade and x cards were missing? I am just curious I received one with the first statement and I was kind of insulted by it. I found the missing cards and they are going out tomorrow, to me it is one of those things that happen especially in trades that get countered a couple times or large trades. Now maybe I am too sensitive about it but to me approaching a issue like this that way implies that I was being dishonest somehow and that I do find insulting. I don't ever assume ill intent by my trading partners and I hope most people here that I have traded with know that I don't ever try to scam or cheat people in trades.

First i would contact the trade partner inform them and see if they are willing to take other cards as a replacement or ket them choose the replacement card(s)

2nd some cards do get overlooked when packing them   I have done this myself   The trade partner informed me letting me know a card or a couple of cards were missing.  I would try my best to locate the card(s) and send them off to the trade partner or send replacements even if it come out of your PC.

Now if yiu were tge one who initially sent the offer i can understand if a card or 2 were missing if he/she just agreed upon a trade   I mean who wants to pull the cards then send an offer only to be rejected, never replied to or counter offer.  You may have spent an hour or 2 trying to pull the cards just to put them back and find others  But if you accepted the trade before pulling the cards you definitely have the obligation to fix the trade because you should have pulled the cards first before agreeing 

 This is my opinion here and everyone has their own 

Not trying to be a jerk here and i hope it doesn’t cone off that way  

You are too sensitive. You messed up the transaction. The other party seems to have trust issues in the way he worded his statement. Fix the error and move on. You feeling you felt a need to post the question here shows you are too sensitive about it.

What BSwagger said. Fix your mistake and move on. His wording probably has more to do with fear of the "bad actors" on this site than you personally. You have enough positive feedback not to worry about this.

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BSwagger wrote:

You are too sensitive. You messed up the transaction. The other party seems to have trust issues in the way he worded his statement. Fix the error and move on. You feeling you felt a need to post the question here shows you are too sensitive about it.

IMO you're being too sensitive. However, I do see your POV and I do believe messaging contributes to these types of issues. It is nearly impossible to convey actual intent through messages. They could have simply put their thoughts down and not what they meant to say. We all think those thoughts, but maturity leads us to be civil. OR, maybe they are just immature and have no interpersonal communication skills. Regardless, not something I would let have space in my mind. Again, IMO...

Rule of thumb- pull and confirm before proposal and accepting.  You'll save yourself the grief. The database isn't always accurate as well. Especially with in-transaction and in-transit status cards.

Mistakes are made. Happened to me a few weeks ago. Trade partner said it was no big deal and left positive feedback. Fortunantly, I found the card and sent it out a few days later. Had it not been found, I would of proposed another trade in their favor to make up for the mistake.  Just sayin...

I have stated many times.  Do not take things personally when you read something that hits a nerve.   

Out of all the mistakes made in my trades.  Only one got a little heated, but after several back and fore we worked it out.  We both understood what the other was saying and agreed it got off to a bad start.  Both of us take what the other said the wrong way.

Personally!   I have written many posts, messages and replies then I take a deep breath, let the feelings/pain go away and reread them.   At that point I delete them or rewrite them.

For me my messages would depend a lot on the card(s) missing.  

If it is my mistake, I will try everything to make it right.   If it is their mistake, I will just inform them of the issue and see if/what they are willing to do.

I don’t get why the message to you was harsh. I think it’s a good rule of thumb to assume a mistake and be polite the first time and perhaps if you didn’t get a response back after 1-2 weeks maybe come back with a harsher message. No need for them to get that snarky on your first message. People make mistakes. 

I think both sides made a mistake. Yours was the missing cards. Theirs was poorly wording their reply to the missing cards. I too word be mildly irritated by that reply. But I would make it right like you did and move on 

Thank you all for your responses. I try not to take things personal but the way this one was phrased bothers me.  I have dealt with the missing cards and am return their half of the trade when it arrives on top of that but will personally not be trading with them in the future. Few things set me off and as most people I have traded with will know I don't get upset about much but implying that I was being dishonest in any way is one that sets me off. As I said if he had phrased it differently it would have been fine. But I certainly hope it was an honest mistake just got under my skin. Anyway again thanks for your time and happy trades.